Sunday, May 28, 2006
Molly had a quiet day today and it is good to see her rest. She is still fighting infections, but her fever wasn't quite as high today. We are planning our strategy on when and how to tell her, but it all depends on her. She is improving and I am afraid the news will set her back so much. This day may not come for weeks, or it may come tomorrow. Each day as the reality of all this sets in, I get a little weaker and a lot angrier. I am hoping that tomorrow I will have regained some of my initial fortitude and can handle things a little better. Bob was the rock today. And Katy was the lifeline. Thank you Katy. We love you and Molly more than life. Good night, my girls, and sweet dreams.
P.S. Marga, please give me a call if you can.
Bernie
P.S. Marga, please give me a call if you can.
Bernie
posted by Molly's Page at 8:32 PM
24 Comments:
Dear Sister,
A good day and good to hear you're regaining your good place. I hope tonight you and Bob and Katy can re-charge to carry on. You make me proud--don't know if I could have done this.
Peggy
Bloom Family,
Leave everything in the hands of GOD. When the time comes for you to tell Molly the extent of her injuries HE will guide you though. Have FAITH and Don't give up. You ALL are going through a tough time right now and it seems like this journey just keeps getting longer and longer. We will continue praying for Molly to keep fighting this battle(and WIN) and for mom, dad, and sister to be strong for Molly.
On one of the blogs someone mentioned a swim-a-thon for sweet Molly @ Skyline. Any more info about that?
Hello Molly,
I go to East, I know you through Filip and Jack, though we have never formerly met. I saw your movie in Madison's class. It was very cheerful and light. You did a good job. I just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking about you a lot.
Bloom Family,
You seem very strong, keep it up. I wish you the best of getting through this terrible time.
Sincerely, Ananda
Dear Molly,
I really miss you so much, and i cannot wait to see you. Even that we haven't hang out together very often, you were still one of my better friends. As I came as an exchange student here I was hoping to have as good friends as you are. This all time that we were hanging out with Jack, was the best time ever. I really remember this time as a very well and fun spend time. I remember once I've visited your house before skiing, and I get to meet your parents. We've got very good breakfest together and I remember I was so excited to see your house and meet your parents. Mollys family, I really cannot imagine how hard it is for you to stand it, and I really wish you all best. You are strong, and you are great family. Best wishes for you all and I hope very hard to see you all next year.
~Filip
I'm praying for you.
Bernie, I'm out of town. I will call you tomorrow. I have your home phone but not your cell phone. Here is my cell phone number 720-260-3600, we are 4 hours earlier than Colorado. I'll talk to you tomorrow. Marga
Dear Bloom Family,
Each day I come to read about Molly and I feel thankful for the opportunity to be a part of something so deeply personal for that moment. By posting info., and most of all your thoughts and feelings, you allow those of us who want to connect with Molly and her family the opportunity to do so. So many people want to do something when really all we can do is let you know how much a part of our thoughts you all are.
As I read and think about the challenges you face and the decisions you must make I am reminded just how often as parents we need to acknowledge that we are doing the best we can. And along with that recognize just how often "doing the best we can" is a really good thing, the best thing for our children. But then again, a manuel sure could come in handy.
I'll be sending lots of healing thoughts Molly's way.
Kelly (East parent)
hey there ms molly and her clan,
i am home and have been missing you all terribly. even though i have talked with you, bob and bernie, at least a couple of times a day while i have been gone, i need to see you all. i am so glad we are getting through hurdle number one and am looking foward to our facing the next one together as a family.
i love you all.
see you tomorrow or actually...later on today.
marci
Bob and Bernie, As the things get harder, like when the best time to tell Molly of her injuries, try to remember that God is with you. I truley believe this, and when the time is right you will know it. You are not on this journey alone. Use all your strength and all the strength of everyone around you. You people are amazing to me the way you are getting through this. God will never give you more than you can handle.
I remember in a small town my Grandparents lived in there was priest and a lutheran pastor who didn't see eye to eye. One day they got in a fender bender with each other. The pastor got out of his car and told the priest that this fender bender might be Gods way of getting them together, and that they could be friends. The priest agreed and said he just picked up some wine for the church, and maybe they could share a drink on their new friendship. The pastor said it was a good idea and when the priest pulled out the wine, the pastor told him to take the first drink. The priest did and handed the bottle to the pastor. The pastor told him to take another drink which the priest did. Then the priest handed the bottle to the pastor, and the pastor said, "take one more good one father, this is a great new friendship we are starting." The priest took one more good one and again handed the bottle to the pastor. The pastor took the bottle and put it back in the priests car. The priest asked, "why did you not take a drink with me pastor." The pastor said, "I'm just going to wait until the cops get here." Be strong and be cool. Denver Bob
Dear dear Blooms... you continue to be in so many people's thoughts and prayers.... take your strength from all of that when you're at your lowest..... We're all with you in spirit: crying, screaming, praying and hoping.... Tell Molly as soon as possible, it must be done.... Love and prayers to you all.....
Bloom Family --- are you familiar with the poem "Footprints" ?
Please get it - and read it again and again and again.....
Right now, the single footprints in the sand is our God carrying your whole family..... He will not falter or slip, so let Him carry you....... I'm praying for you all.
Dear Molly, some day in the future, when you are feeling down, try to remember this: Your beautiful face and your eyes, (the windows to your soul) are what people will always see first. They will show people that you are still "you" - your sense of humor, your knowledge, your memories, your aspirations - those are all still in place. When someone meets you, they will simply see "Molly" and whatever experience you have with them will shape their opinion of you. When you first meet someone do you count their toes? Absolutely not. You count how they looked you in the eye, how they made you smile, how they were kind to you. This is how others will see you, too. Give them a reason to always look at you as the whole, wonderful, amazing person that you are. You can do it, Molly. You have it all inside you.
Blooms all,
You are ALL so strong, probably stronger than you ever could have imagined. I am constantly amazed at what the human body can endure, and believe the same to be true for the human spirit. Molly will live to dance the night away again. There will be joy in the morning, though this night feels like it may never end. We are loving you and praying for you continually ~ you are not alone in this horrible place.
Tons and Buckets of love,
The O'Neils
Trust your instincts. You know Molly better then anyone, and your love and sensitivity will get you through. Let the nurses and social worker and docs advise and help you.
You are in such a difficult position; you have to be strong and aware, understand and make medical decisions, when you also need to experience shock, sadness, anger and grief.
I had a newborn in the ICU for over a month. I cried everyday in the shower; some days I took really long showers. I had read a Haiku about tears washing the eyes so we can see more clearly. That may not work for you, but find some action, however small, that gives you an iota of comfort, and make a routine or ritual out of it.
Hundreds, and probably thousands of people are thinking about Molly and your family every day. You are not alone; so many of us care and hope for the absolute best.
Bloom Family ~
Love and hugs and prayers in abundance are being sent your way ... even by those of us who only share the common bond of being an East Angels family.
The first time you talk with your child about her disability is the hardest. Professionals can be helpful with this. It sounds like you're doing the right thing by "strategizing." Find the words and approach you feel right about. (We always avoided "handicapped" -- except for parking places.)
For us, it has gotten easier to talk about things over the years. My daughter's disability has become a smaller part of our world while her achievements and the possibilities in her future have become larger.
Much strength to you at this difficult time, and my admiration, from one mother to another.
Molly Bloom,
Molly Bloom,
eats her hot dogs with a spoon!
Molly Bloom,
Molly Bloom,
rides to school,
on a broom!
I am coming to see you today, Molly. Stay strong. I love you.
- Boothby
Molly and family,
I don't know you, but you are never far from my thoughts and prayers. Your story has touched me in a way I can't express in words. I know this is incredibly difficult. I send you love and hope and compassion and strength every day. Hang in there. You can do it.
Om mani padme hum.
Dear Molly and entire Bloom Family,
Please know that the Cosater Commuters riding with Aunt Frani, send good thoughts and positive wishes your way every day.
We are all with you. Molly shall lead the way.
Hugs
Terrie
Dear Blooms -
This was the favorite poem of Franklin Delano Roosevelt, a man who lost the use of his legs at a time when he thought he was at the top of his career. Little did he know how much more was to come; how could he have known how much he would be needed by his country?
Molly too, has been given a hard hard fate to deal with, but when you softly tell her the situation in which she has found herself, let her know how much more there is to life, how she will be needed by others, what there is she can contribute to the world, and how all kinds of love will come her way in her long life time.
This ancient Angel thinks of you, sends her love, and prays that you may be given the wisdom of Solomon.
William Ernest Henley. 1849–1903
Invictus
OUT of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.
Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.
It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.
Dear Bernie and Bob,
Please let us know if we fulfilled your request correctly. If not we can change it.
Do you remember when your kids asked you the preverbial question "Where did I come from". you gave them answers which were truthful, but only what they could handle. I believe it is the same now, Molly needs the truth, but not necessarily all of it at one time. She will let you know how much and when. I know you will make good choices. Your love will guide you.
We are thinking of you.
See you soon
Marga and Amy
Hi Molly and family,
I want to share something with you that one of my former teachers shared with her classes and parents after she had cancer. I was in Mrs. Salazar's class as she went through cancer treatments and the whole class was amazed at her positive attitude. I don't know if she was your teacher. Later my parents heard her advice at a PTA meeting, and even later, my sisters heard this advice during a class project. I think it's good advice for all of us, and I am glad my sis copied it for her and me.
What Cancer Taught Me
1. Don't worry globally (about everything)
2. Don't dwell on the "what ifs"
3. Focus on the things you have control over.
4. Break up tasks so that they're manageable.
5. Take everything one step at at time and don't be afraid to change.
6. Learn to say no.
7. Learn to ask for help and to accept it.
8. Focus on the positive, and not the negative.
9. Make time for myself.
10. Laugh.
Hopefully, this advice can get you and your family through the recovery time ahead.
An Angel Family that loves you
Bob, Bernie, Katie, and Molly
Through your blogs (I can't believe I am writing a statement like this) and through Frani's emails we have been keeping up with you. You are always in our hearts. If you ever need us, we are here for you.
Of course, we are always praying for Molly's recovery. And we are always in awe at the entire Bloom family strength.
Jay, Michelle, Lindsay, Jocelyn, Justin, Rachel
Dear Blooms,
As a high school student, I can't presume that I have any helpful advice for you as you deal with this horrible tragedy. But please know that so many people are sending postive thoughts, prayers, and love for you and Molly. So many of us are ready to be there for Molly that she will have plenty of support as she recovers.
Much love,
One of Molly's (many) friends
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