Tuesday, May 23,2006
Today was not a good day. We have run into a few complications that have set back Molly's progress. We were warned this would happen, we just weren't prepared for the devastating effect it would have on how we are coping. Our strength just evaporated today. Now I understand what people must go through who have had similar experiences, sitting at a loved ones bedside praying for a glimmer of hope and finding none. My heart breaks for all of you. All of the anger I have been keeping at bay just resurfaced with a vengence. I don't understand how a professional driver who is responsible for passengers can pull away from a curb at a high rate of speed without looking in his side view mirror. There is no way he did that, or he would have seen a line of kids and an open door. Let me introduce myself. My name is Bernadine. I drive a school bus. I just don't get it.
We feel so helpless. If anyone out there has any advice for us at to what we should be saying to Molly as she lies in the intensive care ward full of IVs, breathing machines, monitors, and drugs, I would be very grateful.
We feel so helpless. If anyone out there has any advice for us at to what we should be saying to Molly as she lies in the intensive care ward full of IVs, breathing machines, monitors, and drugs, I would be very grateful.
posted by Molly's Page at 9:57 PM
60 Comments:
Sweet, strong Bernie, Your anger is totally justified. Let it out, it's what you need to do for you right now. When you go back to Molly, you'll feel stronger for letting that anger out. She'll be angry too when she learns how her life has been changed because of that one fateful evening. Deal with your anger and you'll be better able to deal with Dear Molly as she gets better - AND she will get better. Sometimes it's one step forward and two steps back, but she will persevere - as will you Sweet Bernie. Keep the faith. Susan O.
Keep talking to her and let her know you love her. Even in an induced coma, I was able to hear my family talking to me. My memory of what was said and what actually happened was pretty jumbled but I knew they were there for me.
Keep talking to her and let her know you love her. Even in an induced coma, I was able to hear my family talking to me. My memory of what was said and what actually happened was pretty jumbled but I knew they were there for me.
Part of this process is anger, whether or not the days go smoothly or are disappointments such as today has been. All of us are wondering the same questions, over and over again. Those of us who have had to put their children into limosines since Molly's accident have done so reluctantly. What was once a "sure bet" to get your kids around town safely has become yet another risk for our children. Senseless acts such as these carry with them anger that has no place to go, pain that seems unbearable. Only time will make it feel different and with great hopes that Molly will have better days, your anger may be able to fade.
In the meantime, just love her as you do and tell her to keep fighting, that you will be there every step of the way. She will hear you. She is listening for your voice.
Anger is a natural part of the healing process. we all want to place blame in order to understand how something so tragic and unexpected could occur. Just let it out and vent to the people around you. We all love you, Molly, Bob and Katy- please know that you are never alone and can always rely on the people surrounding you. You have all been handling this incredibly well, and we are all sure that better days are ahead.
You need to let yourself feel the anger or it will become too big to control. Anger is frequently made out to be a bad thing, but in many cases it is the most healthy thing to feel. I cannot imagine not feeling angry at the senseless tragedy that has befallen Molly. Remember, though, that you must continue to wrap Molly in your love, just as you too are wrapped and held up by the love of others-even strangers like myself. I read this quote by Ramana Maharshi and it made me think of you, even before you came to your wit's end today...."God's grace is the beginning, the middle and the end. When you pray for God's grace, you are like someone standing neck deep in water and yet crying for water." You may not feel or notice God's grace but God is wrapping you and your beautiful daughter tightly in it. Keep feeling ALL your emotions.
You tell Molly that she made such an impression on a teacher that has not seen her for 7 or 8 years that even today I still remember her maturity, independence, smartness, humor - just exactly the qualities that will be help her in recovery. Things rarely go in a straight line to our goals, but the road will turn right, Even if you say nothing she feels your love and your loving touch. Your strength is still deep, you are just exhausted. As impossible as it sounds, you must take care of yourself as well.
Carol H.
Molly,you are being thought of and you are not alone. Gentle may you rest.
Bernie.... Remember I have always had a fantasy of wearing high heels, a beautiful red ball gown,and oh yes my tiara while beatin' the crap outta some big burly fella.
Picture it, then move forward, stay close to Molly and be the great mom you always have been.
Love
Paul
Good morning,
Daily I read of Molly and now I pray these words might come as come comfort.
Surround Molly with words of love, and tell her there is a world out there that is ready to accept, love, and cherish her. Let her know that college awaits, everyone will step aside for her when she knows where she is going.
People are good, and so is the world, and everything joyous in it awaits her. Whisper to her to awaken and begin life anew, albeit so differently; tell her life will hold for beauty, knowledge, and love.
I pray for her, her caretakers, and her family. God is Love, and truly the Almighty will care for her.
My prayers will continue for you all.
East High Angel, 1970
There is no doubt it is a senseless tragedy that never needed to occur. Be strong for her and don't give up. Look for the glimmer of hope ever so small every day and in time you will see that someone much greater than the doctors is watching over her. We are all praying for strength not just for Molly, but for her family and friends. God Bless All of You ---East High Angel '85
every day I come on this page and hope for good news. I'm sorry for your struggles but I continue to pray for you. I stumbled across this page and have visited it every day since. There is something about you (Molly) that is special to so many people's hearts so stay strong and I (and everyone else) will continue to pray for you.
S. Alexander
bernie, bob, katy, and molly:
as your sister and aunt across the street i have grown to love and cherish you all. your strength through all of this is amazing. as i tell you every night when we debrief on your patio, all of your feelings are part of the process. when you don't express your fears, anger, sadness and occasional joy it will show up somewhere else. keep your focus on the day. look for the small things and remember you are wrapped in a community of love. we are in this together. i love you all. after all, molly is josh's first love! :)
hang in there and don't forget to keep some cynacism on hand.(ok...i don't know how to spell it but i know what it is!)
i love you all.
and katy, remember i am here for you too.
marci
Dear Bernie, Bob Katy and family,
There are 7 steps of healing when one goes through a trauma of any kind, and anger is one of them. I am amazed at how long you have kept this at bay. When you are at a point where you don't know which way to turn, turn to all of us. We are your strenght, when yours has disappeared for a while. You have tried to be a support for all of us. Let us be a support for you.
Molly knows you are with her every step of the way. A simple touch, an I love you, a kiss, lets her know how much you care. Your voice is her comfort. I know from watching my patients in the ER, that there comes a calm when loved ones are near.
We will be leaving Denver for about a week but our thoughts and prayers will be with you all.
Love Marga Amy Drew and Erik
Molly and family,
I read this page everyday and am so touched by your postings and the comments from people all over the world. As I read today's posting, I thought of two things. First, as others have said, it's important to "feel the feelings" as they come. Second, "joy comes in the morning." My college pastor gave a sermon on this Bible verse over 8 years ago, and I still remember it. To me, it means that as bad as something gets one day, there is the promise of joy in the morning--the "day" may be longer than 24 hours, but still, joy will come. I am positive of that. Molly, you are a terrific young woman who has touched many lives. Please stay strong and draw on that inner strength that I have intuitively sensed from you each day in class.
Love, Mrs. Taylor
I stop by here every day to see how Molly is doing... I've never met any of you, I just read about Molly's accident and this page on cnn.com. My heart goes out to you, and you are in my thoughts and prayers. Please tell Molly that the whole world wants her to get better! I hope that tomorrow is a better day for all of you. Prayers for strength and blessings for your wonderful family and all wonderful people who are part of your support system. These people and God will see you through this!
Nashville, TN
Bernie,
It is okay to have anger. It is okay to let go. Please, keep telling Molly and Katy that you love them and to be oh so STRONG!! We all are sending you energy to keep going! You will get there, you are her MOM, a good MOM! God BLess You! Julie Caldwell
Bernie and Bob: Of all our friend's children, we have always thought of Molly as one of the sweetest. Always polite, friendly, and humorous. She has your inner strength. She's as beautiful inside as she is outside. Your anger is warranted. Molly is in our thoughts and prayers daily. Call with any needs you have. Love, Marcel
Bernie and Bob and Molly and Family!
I love you guys so much that I just want to go to the hospital and hug you all and just help you take care of Molly and yourselves...
I for one am HAPPY to hear that you are angry and I am happy to hear that you realize that this man should do jail time and the company who sponsored an unlicensed driver with a criminal past should pay immense amounts of money to Molly's fund. I hope that you find a lawyer who will make them pay, because their obvious irresponsibility and their lack of concern for all of the beautiful children that have gotten into their limo's is unforgivable.
I know that no amount of financial compensation will make a difference for Molly and the change her life has taken, but it will make her quality of life a bit easier, so sue them Bernie and Bob, for Molly!
I also know that this anger will pass for you and resurface and pass and resurface, and I want you to really feel it each and every time for Molly and as you learn and re-learn and re-learn to make peace with it a little at a time, so too will Molly.
Our son is Molly's friend and we are your neighbors and we think of you non-stop and hope that your strength and your true goodness carry you through this tough time!
Please don't ever give up hope until there is reason to do so, hope and faith are sometimes the only things we have in the world that keep us balanced and strong...if you lose those things...then it's over....and we all know that Molly is a fighter and will make progress!
All of the love in the world!
The fact is, this whole thing "SUCKS."
Feel the anger, come to terms with it. Your 'grace' has been amazing and there will be times when you feel loving and graceful again. But you will also feel anger plenty of times-- let it FLY, it's honest. Put it out there for Molly. I think children of all ages appreciate honesty-platitudes and pretentiousness make them anxious.
There may be no point in being angry at the (idiot) driver but be mad as hell at the whole situation-- it didn't have to be that night, that limo, that girl!
It sounds selfish I suppose, but you have a right to feel that stuff-- any of us would.
I've never been in spot quite like yours, but I have had 2 children with serious illnesses (they are fine now). As you sit in what seems to be solitary confinement with beeps and tubes and wires you lose perspective and sanity. I remember feeling like I could endure it if only I could fast forward to the end....if I could know what was on the other side of the "tunnel" I could survive the journey through it.
But you can't know and you have to make peace with that.
It is VERY hard. My only advise is that you lean on the people that you are close to, work to trust the people who are making medical decisions, and don't feel that you have to behave or think in any sort of "appropriate" way.
And by the way, I know the medical people can be frustrating too-- I found that the really good ones appreciate your questions and the fact that you insist on fully understanding reasons for decisions. If any of the professionals fail to honor your desperation adn frustration find the ones who do. They are out there.
I wish you strength and stamina...in parents, there is stuff down deep that somehow enables us to get through those days at our kids bedside.
And for anyone else reading this, write a check to the Recovery Fund, the healthcare crisis is no joke -- and physical and emotional therapy are among the most poorly covered services.
Dear Sister,
I was wondering, no, worrying that I hadn't seen any anger. Today's posting eases my mind that you have reached the point of letting it out. I know it's been there all along. Envision Paul's fantasy,(pretty sure I know where to find some red stilettos) and then I hope you take to heart steve t.'s words--they are wise.
Never doubt we love you all and will do whatever you need.
Peggy
Dearest Blooms, I check in everyday to see how Molly is doing. My heart is breaking over her (and your) set back.
Anger is very much a part of the process-let it out-don't bottle it up because it will only work to destroy you.
Lean on Jesus, know he is close to Molly and that he loves her even more than you, be assured that he has Angels ministering to her every minute of everyday. Molly is not only wrapped in your love, but she is wrapped in God's love and warmth.
Your Faith will pull you through and Molly will be healed and go on the live a productive life-a life lead by the Lord.
With prayers of strength and blessings, Beth from Iowa
Aunt Bernie
I have asked myself all the same questions. I'm sorry that all this happened. I pray that Molly will make it through this. I know that she is strong and will come out on top. I miss all of you and can't wait to get there. You are all in my thoughts.
Love,
Rachel Lowry
i have been checking on molly's progress every day, and today i couldn't help but cry. i didn't know molly well, but i had classes with her freshman and sophomore year and she seemed like such a sweet girl. i also had classes with people in the limo with molly and the devastation is heartbreaking and i pray molly will recover as quickly as possible. please continue to give her all the love in the world.
you will have to be very strong, strong for molly in this hard time. I know it is hard, but you can do it. but you don't have to do it alone. Do you remember the song "lean on me" well i think that that applies right now and you need to turn to people you know and the Lord for support.Best of luck, you can make it through this hard time
love east swimmer
We are deeply saddened by what has happened to you.
We think about you all constantly.
We truly pray for your recovery.
Gerry, Debbie, and Dan Stewart
Blooms -
Try to keep up a brave hey everything is okay, we'll get through this, don't worry facade when you're with Molly. I was in a similar situation and was terrified early on. Seeing the saddness, terror and pain in my parents' faces made it even more terrifying.
Good luck.
I read your posting every day and have been absolutely amazed by your love and courage.
I too have a daughter who's an East grad this year - Amy is a friend of Molly's from swim team. We share your anger and your pain as we keep Molly in our thoughts. Your updates have helped bring together a community who wants so much to surround you with love, support, and positive energy.
Muffy Steinhoff
A day hasn't gone by that we haven't thought of you and Molly. Even though we don't know you our son came home after prom and told us about the accident. We will continue to pray for you and her recovery. We know it will be long. Just remember that God is there even when it does not seem like it.
The Johnson Family
Bernie,Bob,Katy and family,
Ever since I read your update this morning, I have been at a loss as to how to help, what to say or do. Even though I wrote earlier, it just wasn't enough. While in the shower, one of my favorite places to think, something came to me. I hope it will in some small way help.
As parents we have from the start tried to instill good values in our children, so that when they were on their own, they could make good choices. The doctors, hospital, and most importantly you, have given Molly every possible opportunity to recover from this horrific accident. I don't know what your religious affiliations are, but I do know that you believe in Molly. Have faith in her ability to handle her future.
Dear Bernie and family,
Your anger is well justified and actually healthy. I know from experience that someday you will be healed and you will look back on this and wonder why you had to endure this. At that point, Molly will be doing well and you will be amazed at her acceptance of the situation handed to you all. It will just take time. Lots and lots of time. It will be like one big ugly roller coaster ride! Hang on and keep the faith and "this too shall pass". God does not give us more than we can handle. I, along with thousands of others are praying for all of you.
Love you,
Your cousin Nancy
Stay Strong, everything is a blessing that we sometimes just can understand. You will make it
May 24, 2006
Dear Mr. & Mrs. Bloom, Molly, and Katy,
I am an "Ancient Angel" (Class of 1956), and am so very sorry to hear about the accident. I have been following the posts daily, from my home in Victoria, British Columbia, Canada, and my thoughts and prayers are with you all.
As a mother, grandmother, & University of Colorado nurse of 50 years, I know that Molly's spirit, your wonderful family support, and the healing skills of the doctors and nurses, & the East High School community will continually all work together, in tremendous combination as a solid foundation for healing.
I think of your strength and courage with great admiration.
The thoughts and prayers of the world are with you all.
Sincerely,
Lois (Sewell) Mesner, East HIgh School Class of 1956
Victoria, British Columbia Canada
May 24, 2006
Dear Mr. & Mrs. Bloom, Molly, and Katy,
I am an "Ancient Angel" (Class of 1956), and am so very sorry to hear about the accident. I have been following the posts daily, from my home in Victoria, British Columbia, Canada, and my thoughts and prayers are with you all.
As a mother, grandmother, & University of Colorado nurse of 50 years, I know that Molly's spirit, your wonderful family support, and the healing skills of the doctors and nurses, & the East High School community will continually all work together, in tremendous combination as a solid foundation for healing.
I think of your strength and courage with great admiration.
The thoughts and prayers of the world are with you all.
Sincerely,
Lois (Sewell) Mesner, East HIgh School Class of 1956
Victoria, British Columbia Canada
we all have so much anger and confusion. seeing what i saw that night has terrified me and i find myself questioning the reason for such events in life. we just have to remember it is the happy thoughts and memories that keep us positive for molly, instead of dwelling on our anger and frustration. the other day while babysitting in the park i had a rush of tears while swinging because i recalled a few days before the incident molly and i were swinging together in city park. i remember prom night dancing with molly, and telling her how beautiful she looked. molly's video in class made everyone smile. i get that rush of tears everyday, and bernadine i can't imagine how hard this must be for you.
molly you are such a strong and determined girl, and i truly have faith that you will pull through the best you can, and we are all here for you to help you recover. i think about you non stop and i love you molly, we all love you, and i cant wait till i get to laugh with you again.
much love
ali rountree
Bernie, Bob & Katy, you all have the right to be angry. It is very sad that because the driver was so careless that this had to happen to Molly. It is good to let the anger out, as this will help you to become stronger.
Molly can sense how strong you all are and this will help her get through this terrible tragedy.
Molly and all of you are in my thoughts & prayers every second of the day and I wish there was something more we could do. Be assured that you all have a whole community listening and supporting you.
Virginia Vale swim team started practice yesterday, and as the moms hung out around the picnic tables, many of us were saying prayers for Molly and for her mom and dad. Many remember Molly's strength and determination in the water, and her beautiful smile. VV is there for you.
I am so sorry for everything that has happened to you. It is completely right to be upset and angry. I think many of us are also very upset and angry and confused. My advice is keep telling Molly that you love her, and keep praying. Much love.
i havent known molly for very long yet, but the times we have hung out so far i have seen how trully amazing she is. she is the most genuinly nice and easy going girl i have ever met and i know i am not the only one who feels that way. the other day me and gina were talking and her name came up and a guy walking by was like sorry im not eves dropping, i just heard the name and wanted to say that out of all people, why molly. everyone i have come across has said the same thing. she is a strong girl with a wonderful outlook on life and that will help her pull through this, along with all of our continuing support. i cant even begin to imagine how hard this must be for you, but know that we are all here for you and molly, anything you need.
molly we are all here for you and miss you enormously. i cant wait to see you, and i know that you out of all people can pull through this. we all love you so much, and not a moment goes by without us thinking of you.
love, tara clark
Bernadine: My name is Cindy Good. I know that Susan Osthoff, a good friend of mine too, has given you my name and number. Unfortunately, I know exactly how you are feeling. I'm sure you have been told about my daughter Mallory. Please feel free to contact me or would you like me to just come to you?
Let your anger out. It is justified, but don't let it consume you or influence the overall attitude of your situation. Give yourself permission to have your moments. A loved one's suffering is traumatic for everyone involved. You have been strong for her, but let yourself fall into the arms of someone who can be strong for you. You certainly have a team on your side that is willing to help.
Remember also that you need any rest that you can possibly get (easier said that done, right?)
MJ-Camas, WA
Katy, Bernie & Bob:
I have been so impressed by how well all of you have been handling everything this past week. You are such a solid and strong family.
You all love eachother so much and this fact will help you to persevere through this terrible time, I know it.
Your strenghth continues to be an inspiration.
See you at DG again soon.
Al
Dear Mrs. Bloom-
Music - do you have a special song you sang to Molly when she needed one when she was just little? "You are my Sunshine" is a good one, or "What a Wonderful World" might be another-
Perhaps you can think of your outrage as a sign that progress IS being made. You're in need of another wave of stamina to keep the vigil going and with pent up emotional energy you might not have enough 'room' in your heart/mind to allow the calm and the strength to pour back in and sustain you --- which you'll need to endure.
You are surely enduring, and so is Molly.
I hope this paltry 'advice' helps.- even a little-Music is a great healing force--'when you feel your life's too hard- just go have a talk with God...' Stevie Wonder
another concerned and watchful mother/sister/daughter
Dear Mrs. Bloom-
Music - do you have a special song you sang to Molly when she needed one when she was just little? "You are my Sunshine" is a good one, or "What a Wonderful World" might be another-
Perhaps you can think of your outrage as a sign that progress IS being made. You're in need of another wave of stamina to keep the vigil going and with pent up emotional energy you might not have enough 'room' in your heart/mind to allow the calm and the strength to pour back in and sustain you --- which you'll need to endure.
You are surely enduring, and so is Molly.
I hope this paltry 'advice' helps.- even a little-Music is a great healing force--'when you feel your life's too hard- just go have a talk with God...' Stevie Wonder
another concerned and watchful mother/sister/daughter
Hi I'm a student at East....I never knew Molly but I wish your whole family the best of luck and you all are always in my prayers. Stay strong.
Prayer heals all wonds
Bernie, feel whatever you are feeling and understand there is no right or wrong way to feel. Understand that you will experience a myriad of feelings and that's OK. Get as many hugs from everyone you can and keep talking to Molly, it doesn't matter what you say because she will know each word is your love. I do not know your beliefs and can only speak from mine, but I really believe God is here for us, maybe thru different paths, but here in the present. "Be still and know that I am God". The most beautiful meditation I ever learned was: "Imagine Molly in a garden, she is in a beautiful garden, a soft breeze against her cheek, birds softly singing in the background, the soft bubble of a creek nearby and the scent of flowers in the air. She is healing and gaining strength in the warmth of the sun and holding her in His arms, is our Lord Jesus. He just holds her and she feels how much she is loved by so many and she feels inner strength flowing through her. The Lord sees you and embraces you along with Molly and there is a feeling a peace, love and healing." God Bless. -Michelle
I think one of the best things you can do for yourself is to talk to a professional counselor about this whole situation and all the feelings around it. It helps to have family and friends to talk with, but talking to a professional will help give you not only an outlet-to whom you can say nearly anything you think or feel-but also someone who can help you think of ways to help Molly and yourselves. Many people offer these services for free. Check with a social worker at Denver Health.
Aunt Bernie,
This may or may not help (Even if it's temporary)... it sure helped me. Punch the crap out of your bed or pillow. I hadn't done that in a long time, and needed to do it the other day. I forgot how good it really does feel. Even though it's temporary, it's a great release of pent up emotions. My bed now has a new soft spot! Let me know if you need anything, we are here for you.
Love,
Sarah
Bloom family,
I am a good friend of your cousin Carrie, she sent me the car wash info all the way from VA, and if not for her I would not have known about the fund raiser, so I feel blessed that my husband and I could contribute in some small way.
I cannot begin to fathom what you are feeling now and I will not begin to give you any 'advice' but know that you are in the prayers of many and, God's love, which surpasses all understanding, will lead you through all of the emotions you are dealing with now. Know that your local Denver community, Colorado community and national community are all praying and pulling for you!
God's Blessings,
Kristin from Denver
Dear Bloom family,
The courage that all of you are exhibiting is inspiring.
I never saw the accident but hearing about it was more than enough for me to become affected by it. At the hospital on Sunday morning, I almost fainted just trying to visualize the situation. I haven't been able to bring myself back to the hospital since because I have heard that people in comas can hear you and I don't want Molly to know that my courage is slipping. I also don't want to let the image of Molly in my head go. I see her with a bright smile on her face and cracking jokes as we all wait at the wall during swim practice. She's perfect.
You have every right to be angry. Don't feel bad that you are. Don't be afraid to be filled with anger or vengence, because there are so many people around you that can be strong for Molly and stand beside you.
My family and I think of Molly constantly and hope for all the best. We are here for you.
Love, Maria Capecelatro
We just keep praying and praying and praying for you all. You are so much in the thoughts and hearts of the Angel community. God Bless. An East Angel Mom
When is Molly's birthday?
All you can do is tell her what you would want to hear. Tell her how much you care, tell her that you're with her always, and so are her friends, if not physically, she's always in our thoughts. This is Leah again and I just wanted to say I think of Molly every day, and my heart goes out to her parents, (you Bernie, and Bob). Molly is a strong girl, and she's made it this far, we're all pulling for her. Believe. Believe and remember to breathe and laugh for her.
Bernie,
No sage advice. Just know that we are always thinking about Molly and praying for her.
Also, you, Bob and Katie are in our thoughts and prayers as well. It's a bitch being so helpless. We love you.
Jay, Michelle, Lindsay, Jocelyn, Justin, Rachel
Molly,
Even though I only met you once when you were a little girl, I think about you, now, every day. Every day I ask Jay about you and I know, that any day now, you'll turn the corner. I keep in my prayers that that day is today. All words are so inadequate. I'm so sorry. But, I am so inspired by your beauty, strength, personality, talent and intellegence. Please know, Bernie and Bobby, that we're here for you always.
Love, Michelle, Jay, Lindsay, Jocelyn, Justin and Rachel
Dear Bloom Family,
You do not know me but I am a nurse who works with the mom of one of Molly's class mates. I learned of Molly's accident the very next day and have been praying since.
Your fear for your precious baby, the strength you find that you didn't even know you had, the awareness of the kindness of strangers, I'm sure, make you so uneasy at times. But they are blessings that are being sent to help you find a place to file away this experience. I found this to be true when my own pecious daughter was a patient, possibly in the same bed in the same ICU a year ago after a ski accident. I know you are in wonderful hands there at DH. The experience there reaffirmed why I am a nurse. Dr. Wade Smith, who I'm sure you know, is a Godsend. Please keep the faith, and let this anger come, but then let it go. I and my family, think of you all everyday and Molly will do fine because she has the love of her family, the best trauma surgeons this side of the Mississippi, and God on her side. Mourning what is lost is normal, painful and neccessary. Two years from now, when Molly's new life path has been discovered, you will look back, shudder at the memories, and God -willing, be ever so thankful for where our unpredictable world has led you all. For now, go through these neccessary motions and know you are not alone. I pray for your peace of mind as I write this and know it will come.
Theresa Fleskes and Family
Today was my first day back on the Monaco Marlins swim team, and being in the water brought back a flood of emotions and memories. It was rough, i am really out of shape. They challanged us to do 2x200 IM's.... and i could not even begin to do them. I started to cry, Molly could always do them, she kicked ass in all the races i wish i could do. Tahlia and i talked about how much of a fighter molly was in the water, and that will be no different in this situation.
I love you all!
Be strong
xoxox Miss meliss
I expect you're doing everything right for Molly. But keep in mind that you -- and those closest to her -- are also victims, and you need care just as she does.
Years back, my daughter was in intensive care for some time and I remember well the ups and downs. After our first three days, my husband and I felt we had lived through a year's worth of emotions. We learned we were going to have to pace ourselves.
I found that the hospital social worker and support groups were there to help me. They listened to my grief, anger and fear without judgement and often had the right comment at the right time. I spent a lot of time in the hospital chapel. It was quiet and strengthening, a place where I could collect myself and find peace. I learned to pay attention to my instincts amid all the well meant advice.
I also kept a list of things people could do if they asked -- errands, meals, etc. This gave me more time to rest and be with my daughter.
Much strength to you, dear Bernadine. My best hopes and prayers go out for you and Molly.
Hello Bernie and Bob, Bernie, Mike gave me the news last night about your daughter Molly. I can only imagine how tough it must be on your family at this time. I have a feeling your daughter is as tough as you are, and will get through this with all the help and support everyone can give. My heart is out for you and your family and if there is one thing I do know (and I don't know too much) is that Molly needs you to be strong right now. I will be checking back every day for the updates. I knpw it won't be too long before you will write that Molly is in good spirits, and is leaving the hospital. My prayers are with you Bernie, and all of your family. I have always considered you a good friend, and I will do what I can from 900 miles away. The one thing I can do is pray for you. Be strong Bernie, Get err done. Denver Bob
When she is stronger, tell molly the truth about the neglect by the driver. remind her that the limo company has insurance that will have to take care of her for years. Use your anger to get things done for Molly. Anger is good energy when directed to a goal like finding a good attorney, setting up re-hab for her, writing letters about limo company responsibility for their passengers, etc. Use that anger energy to keep going. Sharon B. Grand Junction
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