Saturday October 7, 2006
Another Saturday night. This time, Molly is out with friends. She depends on others to take her out and get around, but she is still with us. She has her moments when the reality of the severity of her injuries hits her. These are the times that take me back to all the questions, anger and anxiety that we faced at the beginning of this trauma. I try to maintain an even keel and forget the reason that we are here, and then I read about how the cop shooter in Aurora will be arraigned
six days after the limo driver. His arraignment will take place 5 months after this trauma on October 12 in Denver. I have always been a firm believer in our justice system. I served on 2 juries in the past, one in which we were sequestered for 2 weeks on a first degree murder trial. I was a staunch defender of our court system until I found out how many criminals are set free because of ridiculous loopholes, backlogged courts, and scumbag lawyers who know how to take advantage of these holes in the system. Arapahoe County could have kept this creepy driver in jail by revoking his probation for child molestation, but judge Marilyn Leonard reduced his bond based on a plea by the stepdaughter he had molested and he is prancing around scott free now. Molly will never prance again. Voters, you can deny judges their seats.
Can you tell that I am having an angry day? I pray that I can get over my anger, sometimes I can and sometimes I have to watch Molly struggling to do ordinary things and getting frustrated. She doesn't quit! She just keeps trying to get back to a semblance of normality so that she can get away from her parents and live her life. She is my hero!
Mr Keller, I have it on good authority that you are waiting to post. I am looking forward to it. I miss you!!
Katy, thank you for being such a good sister! I love you.
Good night ladies! See you in the morning. Love you.
six days after the limo driver. His arraignment will take place 5 months after this trauma on October 12 in Denver. I have always been a firm believer in our justice system. I served on 2 juries in the past, one in which we were sequestered for 2 weeks on a first degree murder trial. I was a staunch defender of our court system until I found out how many criminals are set free because of ridiculous loopholes, backlogged courts, and scumbag lawyers who know how to take advantage of these holes in the system. Arapahoe County could have kept this creepy driver in jail by revoking his probation for child molestation, but judge Marilyn Leonard reduced his bond based on a plea by the stepdaughter he had molested and he is prancing around scott free now. Molly will never prance again. Voters, you can deny judges their seats.
Can you tell that I am having an angry day? I pray that I can get over my anger, sometimes I can and sometimes I have to watch Molly struggling to do ordinary things and getting frustrated. She doesn't quit! She just keeps trying to get back to a semblance of normality so that she can get away from her parents and live her life. She is my hero!
Mr Keller, I have it on good authority that you are waiting to post. I am looking forward to it. I miss you!!
Katy, thank you for being such a good sister! I love you.
Good night ladies! See you in the morning. Love you.
posted by Molly's Page at 9:30 PM
42 Comments:
Hello Bob, Bernie, Katy and Molly, I can only imagine how hard it would be to watch your child struggle to do simple things. But her being out with her friends is such a good thing. Bernie, if you pray to lose your anger, it will be lifted. I'm sure of that but it will take some time. I can imagine if one of my kids went through this, how angry I'd be. Go to the polls and vote these judges out.
I have a little something to tell you about my youngest son. I'm a little embarressed to talk about it but I thought the blog might be the way to go. I walked into his bedroom last week and caught him in a compromiseing position. He's 14 and he was by himself if you know what I mean. I caught him in the act and didn't know what to do. So I said, "Son, if you keep doing that you'll go blind." I didn't know what else to do. He answered, "Dad, I'm over here." So I left and about an hour later he came up to me and asked, "Would it be alright if I keep it up until I need glasses? Stay strong and stay cool,
Denver Bob
It's good that Molly can get out with her friends - good for both of you. I know that the "justice system" doesn't always seem just. Your anger is understandable. Sometimes the only way around something is right down the middle, and that means experiencing the anger and getting through it.
And if all that doesn't help, close the door and kick and scream as loud and hard as you can. And get up, move on and be strong for your family. My husband's attitude saved us. It is still so fresh and new for you.
It was nice to see your interview on the news. What a good woman you are. Molly is lucky to have you...even if as a teenager she still needs her freedom away from you.
I was 25 when my husband lost his leg. We had a small baby and had only been married about 2 1/2 years. After 8 months he began traveling again for work. It was in the early months of the year. He had to have his boss with him, but they went to Alaska. I SOBBED worrying that I would lose him. I took pictures of him with our baby just before he left because I knew something terrible would happen. Nothing did. It has been 8 years and he has adapted. I was seriously tramatized for a good couple of years. He was so stinking ready for his freedom.
He works for a medical company. I felt it was my responsibility to "push" him in his chair. He got so ticked off at me he ordered himself a chair with no handles so I couldn't push! He couldn't wait to drive again so he could have some alone time. I look back and wonder how we made it through some of those times. Blisters, painkillers, terrible prosthetists. He tried to carry our baby when he had his first prosthesis and they both ended up on the floor. He took numerous public spills in his wheelchair and even once got stuck in Mexico when his prosthesis broke and he couldn't move!
Give yourself time to grieve and deal with the anger. Before long it won't hurt so bad.
MJ-Denver
Hi, Bernie, I was so happy to get an update on Molly and your family. Hoorah that Molly was out with friends. Good for her. As for you, you have the right to be angry, it is normal and it is OK. I would be worried if you never expressed negative emotions. On the other hand, I can tell from your other blogs that you do have a very positive attitude and do not live in anger constantly. Be as patient with yourself as you have been with Miss Molly! Be good to you!
Look back on what you wrote and concentraate on the "Molly's out with friends" phrase, and not the "will never prance again" phrase. Look how far she has come in five short months (even though it seems like five years), and know that in another 5 months, she will amaze you with her mobility. This kid obviously has what it takes!!!
Dear Mrs. Bloom -
So lovely to hear from you, and to receive news about Molly. Thank you for the insight about the Judge, oh, I will be there on voitng day...
The 'justice' system in this country leaves much to be desired: no wonder you are mad, you have ever right to be so.
When your house was being changed to help Molly, where was the driver? When you need garden and yard work accomplished to be with your daughters, where is the driver? Where is that damn driver now, - - if he had any moral courage he would be around trying to help the family that he has so hurt. Oh, it would take courage to come around and try to help, I grant you that, but he has not even tried, I'll wager. Yup, I sure hope you get a judge that will pronounce...(and the real punishment he deserves will never be issued,) but some kind of a fair punishment.
We are all behind the Blooms, now, and in November.
My love to you and your family,
An Old East Angel
so good to get an update. i am guessing that molly is thrilled to be out with friends. and "yeah" that her friends are still by her side!
has molly gotten into the pool?
bernie... the anger comes and goes. i am so glad you don't try to avoid or deny it.
Bernie, thanks for the update. It's just great to hear that Molly is out with friends. No, life will never be the same but there is life. I can only imagine your anger...I'm angry and I've never met Molly except through you and this blog. Thank you for the updates and know that Molly and your family continue to be in my prayers. Sometimes faith is all we have and then we realize it's all that we really need. So keep the faith and maybe it's time to make some more toothpicks.
God Bless you, you are an inspiration on how every mother should be. And through your strength is where Molly and Katy gets theirs. Always know that and know that the anger will pass and that you are very justified in feeling angry.
And you can be sure that I will be looking up judge records in the county I live and vote accordingly. That is our power.
Stay strong...and Denver Bob laughter is the best medicine, thanks for the laughs.
Molly's my hero too Mrs. Bloom in fact you, her Dad and Sister are all to be commended. I have followed your story from the beginning and you've all come a long way.
I understand your anger and I can only imagine what if it were my child.
I'll continue to keep your family in my prayers and hold on to your faith Bloom family because that will sustain you. God Bless You.
No need to take things personal, Oats. Bernie was having an angry day, can't a mother who has watched her daughter go through hell have an angry day? Shame on you. As for Molly being with friends, how GREAT of news that is! I bet it feels good to be out and about with friends! I'm so proud of Molly. I dont know if I could be as strong as her if it were me in her shoes. Bernie, stay strong, and you're definitely allowed to have angry days and say what you want and whatever is on your mind. You all continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. Much love to you all.
Every parent whose child has been injured or died will go through incredible bouts of anger and depression. Not all, however, have celebrity status and such a large forum to vent with. Bernie, I wish that I could trade places with you. You still have a beautiful, living daughter who will lead a relatively normal life and, God willing, have her own family some day. Not all of us have that to look forward to. While your driver was not the most sterling citizen, he didn't purposely injure Molly. He got careless and she has to suffer for it. What one of us hasn't gotten careless at one time or another and just been lucky enough that no injury or death resulted. There aren't enough jail cell to hold everyone that each of us thinks should be locked up forever. When you have a bad day, sometimes it better not to take it out on the whole world. You will be amazed at how fast your adoring supporters will fall away and start saying that you should have closure by now.
Keep up the good work Molly. I just wish that I could see you in that pool.
An old couch
I was worried since you had not written in a few weeks. I imagine getting home was a reality check as to how different life will be now. I am thrilled to hear Molly is out with her friends. That is a huge step for her. Your entire family has suffered a huge loss. Loss brings grief. Anger is just one phase of grief. It is perfectly normal. There is also no time frame on grief. It would be great if there was. From my experience, it does get better but there are times that it washes over you and feels like the first day again. I would encourage all of your family, when the time is right, to seek professional help to process all the phases of grief and loss and move on to forgiveness. Forgiveness is one I struggled with for ages but you forgive not because the other person was right and deserves forgiveness. You forgive because it is the best thing for you. God will seek justice from us all. In the mean time, remember feelings come and go, they are not right or wrong. The risk is getting stuck and not moving forward. I will keep praying for Molly and the rest of your family.
Hey Oats, lighten up!!! This is not about you. Bernie has the right to say what she feels and no one should take it personally.
Glad to hear that Molly was out with friends. I'm sure she continues to improve daily.
The Bloom's are in our prayers daily.
Being a lawyer doesn't mean you get the right to tell people how to feel and what to say and what not to say. Lawyers are sometimes scumbags (just like salesmen, real estate agents, doctors, drivers, engineers) and I say that with a lawyer in the family. Yes, there are wonderful helpful lawyers out there too. We can all have our own opinions, and we can all say wrong things at times, but who are you to say that she can't feel this way at this time in this ordeal? She most definitely can say what she chooses, and you are no one to tell her she is wrong. Sorry if this comes off wrong, but get a grip! This woman is dealing with a horrible accident caused by lack of judgment, lack of responsibilty, resulting in a severe injury to her daughter. We are here to support, not to turn her words into words and/or remarks we find offensive. Read it for what it is. It is not about you.
Keep up the GOOD WORK MOLLY!
Hey Bernie, some posters are trying to make their posts about themselves and not Molly and your family. Just know that the majority of us are behind you and your family 1000 percent. This is for Molly!!!! Your anger is more than understandable, it is a human feeling that God gave us. Please don't apologize for your anger, thank God that you can feel and that you have an outlet with people that understand. Your blog has been so inspiring and uplifting for most of us out here. Please don't let the naysayers get you down. You are an awesome mom and you have put Molly and Katy first throughout this whole ordeal. God Bless you! So I'll steal a phrase from Rosie; Peace out Stranger Friend.
WHEW! First of all...thank you so much for the update...I have missed hearing from you! It is amazing...out with friends! WOW! You do amaze me Miss Molly! Secondly...I pray that you don't take as long as I to let go of the naysayers. No one caused my sons disease so I had no one to hate and be angry at...but a few people did say and do really nasty things and I became defensive and obsessed with every hurtful word and person. It was suggested I get an ugly plant and name it dermatomyostis. Put it in the corner and treat it how I felt. Sounds insane but it worked. Finally the ugly plant is gone. It was so ugly I hated it and it felt good to carry it out to the garbage and say goodbye. Finally, I have also thrown away all the negativity and all the naysayers and hold dearly to all the wonderful people and all the wonderful gestures in our lives. People are human...what is,is...feelings are feelings,they just are. To the offended lawyer...step out of the box,could your response went like this...Dear Mrs. Bllom, I am so sorry for all that you have endured. I have been praying for you and your family. I am a lawyer and I am one of the good guys...I don't like my fellows who do the job immorally any more than you do. I can assure you that there are some good guys in my profession,If I may help you in any way feel free to contact me through my office. signed,A good guy who works hard and wants justice just like you! ,Ya see...people do call me Miss Pollyanna but I read once where "no one ever hurt their eyes by seeing the bright side of things!"author unknown. Bernie and her family are trying to find normal in lives that have been devastated. I have been there! It is walking in Hell! It is not that they hate any body...they hate what has happened. Time does heal and if you would have told me that 3 years ago I would have hated your words. I truly believe the Blooms will be OK, they have the most important element and that is GOD in their hearts! As they must find forgiveness so shall us all! Love and Prayers!, And Mrs. Bloom I am a voter but now because of you I will take it more serious and I will know the morals of those I vote for! So see your blog did a lot of good and your anger does too! In spite of all this I believe you are going to change the world! Everything does happen for a reson...Maybe Molly will become a judge so victims won't be victims at least in her courtroom. My son was going to be an engineer but since this disease he is now studying pre-med to find a cure for his disease that is so rare and not researched enough! Some days we all must reach real hard! Keep on keepin on!
The Bloom Family,
Today i'm sending you a bouquet of your favorite flowers. If your favorite flowers are roses that is what they will be, or whatever else you would like for them to be. Imagine them with me, if you will in all of thier brillant colors, and in your favorite vase, sitting in your favorite place where you can enjoy them. Each one of these flowers are labeled. You can arrange them however you would like. I've labeled the first flower "Courage" that it takes to conquer all obstacles, the second one "Hope" with a trust that impossible things will in some way be worked out, the third one "Purpose" with determination to achieve the goals that have been presently set by you, the fourth one "Promise" that by standing your ground your expectations will be realized, the fifth one "Tenacity" being persistently tough and holding fast, the sixth one "Fortitude" having the strength of mind and heart to meet all danger, pain and adversity, the seventh one "Direction" while you are learning to read the signs that are moving you along on your family's new path, the ninth one "Patience" for remaining calm as you bear the pain of many tests along the way, the tenth one "Energy" to actively do everything daily that needs to be done, the tenth one "Comfort" to sooth your hearts with your favorite relaxing music, talking with friends, sitting beside a stream, driving in the mountains, etc., the eleventh one "Inspiration" for all of your intellect and emotions that are driving you to stay steadfast day by day, and the twelfth one "Love" from all of the devoted ones who care about you that are in your blog audience. We have seen each of these flowers exhibited in your lives from time to time, as we have read the unfolding of your story. Hopefully they will be a source of encouragement to you.
Dear Bernie,
You are an amazing mother. You have class and dignity and just as you are blessed to have such beautiful and intelligent daughters, they are blessed to have such a loving mother. Your supporters will never abandon you. We honor and respect you and we will do everything we can to support and encourage you.
Hey Oats - if you are such a stellar attorney how about offering your help to the Bloom family pro bono? You want to be treated with respect and kindness? Try backing off. This blog is not about you and your fragile ego and your hurt feelings.
Hello Miss Molly and family,
Great to hear that you're out and about. I'm wondering if we can still send cards to you via that hospital address. I know the hospital was posted awhile back, but I just wanted to make sure that you would still get it!
Thanks!
Blooms-
We will all be thinking about you tomorrow and praying that justice prevails for Molly's sake. You are an amazing family. Molly is going to be fine in this world. Her beautiful heart and soul are completely intact. God bless you all.
Oats--It was not a personal attack, get over yourself.
anger and resentments...toxic weights that prevent your spirit to soar. I pray you find serenity.
Oats,
One of Molly's unlces is a lawyer, and has been Bernie's brother in law for 28 years. Trust me when I say the scumbag remark was aimed at a very specific group of lawyers that the Bloom family have had to contend with since this started. Not even my husband has taken issue with her remark. He feels the same way; even stopped telling people he was a lawyer years ago--would only say he was a civil servant. He was tired of the stuff people thought it was okay to throw at him just because of his career; which in reality was working for them. It is a fine career you live, but like everything else, has been sullied by personal greed and status seeking few. Regrettable, but true.
Yes, Molly got back into the water. Her first time convinced her that she needs a LOT more physical training to regain her muscle tone and strength. And is doing just that. The experience was still a joy for her and our thanks to Mallory for that from Molly's family.
Thanks to all of you for your continued support and good wishes for Molly as well as Bernie, Bob & Katy. Please know that they do still get strength from your messages.
love you all, Blooms.
Molly's Aunt Peggy
Hi Bernie,
You continue to AMAZE me! I had the most wonderful opportunity to meet Molly a few weeks ago, it was almost like meeting a movie star....at least in the sense that I have been awe struck by this little, tiny girl's strength and perseverance every day this summer. When I met her, my heart broke again for her, simply because of her youth and her vulnerability and her beauty. And then it broke again because she is so strong and so unwilling to be anything but a normal teenager. I will live my whole life thinking about how amazing she is.
Today is the big day, at least in the respect that that piece of crap who did this to Molly through negligence and disregard will have to answer for his crime. Granted, he will not receive the punishment he deserves, such as having his life stolen from him, but punishment nonetheless. I hope that some tiny bit of peace settles over us all today for Miss Molly Bloom.
Take care of that beautiful girl with the unbelievable spirit and give her all the hugs that I cannot!
All the love in the world!
Joni
Oats,
I hear what you're saying but it isn't the right place to do it.
If you ever have the chance to meet Molly and she how tiny she is, how young she is, and how different her life will always be from what it was...you will feel rage and anger and see the glass as half empty rather than half full simply because there is no reason that she should have to endure what she has and will always have to endure.
You will lose your faith in humanity simply because her life is so dramatically different and his remains the same. And yes, everyone will look like a scumbag at one time or another.
But she won't, she will look like a tiny little girl who has been wronged like few others have been.
You will see a little girl who doesn't look like she was strong enough to survive what she survived, but she was.
You will see incredible beauty in her and because of that beauty you will see how horrid people can be and what scumbags exist out there.
The words that Bernie wrote down are fair because she knows what has happened to her daughter and that there is no justice, no lawyer, and no judge good enough to make it right.
All that one can hope for is that this guy feels genuine remorse. And that Molly never has to worry about money again...at least let her have that....hopefully a good lawyer will get her that...
love you molly.
love jilly
First time posting. I've been following Molly's story since the beginning and feel joy at all she has accomplished up to this point. As a PT, I certainly appreciate the challenges ahead.
Mrs. Bloom, I realize this is a place for you to vent, but if you find yourself spiraling in negativity, please consider talking to someone. Molly is so fortunate to have you to take care of her. All I am saying is be sure to take care of yourself.
I can hardly believe the limo driver's plea of not guilty. Clearly he is unwilling to take responsibility for his actions - even in the face of the catastrphic consequences Molly has endured.
I suppose a man who would molest his step daughter and then get her to vouch for him deserving to be out of jail is simply acting in character. Sick Sick Sick.
Hang in there, Bloom family. Truth will Prevail!
To Oats -
I personally would try to find an attorney with compassion, unlike onw tihe the lack of compassion you display by posting your defensive BS here!!
BERNIE,
YOU CAN SCREAM, SHOUT, CURSE, VENT, NAME CALL, CRY, OR DO WHATEVER THE HECK YOU WANT TO DO IF IT MAKES YOU FEEL EVEN A TINY BIT BETTER!!!!
For those of you who "feel" she shouldn't be negative...ARE YOU KIDDING ME??? How dare anybody tell her how to feel only 5 months after her daughter's horrific, life altering, injury. Have some compassion and give Molly's mom a break. Anyone who can post a negative comment to Molly's mom after the hell she has been through is a scumbag.
(((((((((((Bernie))))))))))))))
Your daughter is one of the bravest people. I had a friend who was in car accident caused by a drunk driver. She broke both of her legs very seriously and spent the remaining two years trying to heal, so I have seen something similar. It never ceases to astound me how brave young people can be. I don't know if I would have the courage to deal as well as it seems she does when faced with such hardship. My thoughts and hopes are with her. And i honestly believe justice will be served in regards to the man who caused such an injury to a young and vibrant girl. I know you must get many letter like this and I hope that Molly knows how many people are pulling for her and would gladly give any help they could. Tell her that she is one of my greatest heros for having the heart to push through this and remain such a wonderful person. Gods bless and peace be with you and your family.
Wow! Thank you Aunt Peggy for the update...Also thanks for telling it like it is! Entitlement!!! That is what I call it when I give myself and others permission to feel what they feel,what I feel. If we don't entitle ourselves to feel and vent then we push it all down and believe me when it finally comes up...what a mess! Justice will prevail...God has never let me down yet on that one! He may plead not guilty but he has to sleep with himself and truly I am willing to bet he is very sleep deprived...if he is sleeping well then all I can say is I thank God none of us are like him. We are blessed ...we know love and pain and suffering and we know right from wrong! And we will prevail! Molly has proven that to all of us! So have Bob and Bernie and Katie! So have all the bloggers! I pray for all of you and I pray for lawyers and their families and doctors and their families and on and on! We need them all and thank God Molly and her family have shared their story for all of us! Love and prayers!
Molly, you're a hero, a real one. And your parents are as well.
I'm amazed by what you've accomplished so far. You're now a leader to everyone of us.
Bravo, bravo, bravo.
Stéphanie, From Paris, France
hey blooms!
I'm still reading, still checking in, still thinking of you. I wish you the best.
Never give up. And when you give up, forgive yourself for giving up, it's only human. Applaud yourself for having the courage to start again. And never give up.
Our set backs are unbelievably hard, they are a punch in the gut of our spirit and our courage. But you get the wind back, reassess and start from where you are. It may not be where you hoped you'd be, but it's an achievement nonetheless.
The horrible, ugly messy days that you make it through become shining jewels of courage that provide for so many other strugglers. Your worst day is someone else's gift, somewhere down the line.
Hang in there!
Sophia
I thought of you as another Saturday night came upon us. Hope all is going well for you. Prayers continuously going out for you for you to be strong in your journey to get back some normalcy in your life.
STRENGTH OF MOLLY
So small, so sweet and innocent.
The questions come in floods.
the whys, how comes and what did I do?
My child, it wasn’t you, it wasn’t your fault.
It happened because of his stupidity.
The nightmares will fade, as the time passes by.
Your days will grow brighter, your nights will be calm.
No one knows why god made men like him.
No one knows why it happened on your dream night.
There are no true answers.
All we know is he is a bad and uncaring person.
The law doesn’t help.
They punish him with community service,
or a few months in jail.
That is just a short sentence and does no justice,
when you live a life time of punishment.
In time, you will move on, in time, your fears will subside.
You will grow and move on with your life and be happy, yet deep down he is always there.
Always haunting your thoughts.
But don’t let him get to you, sweet Molly;
for you are not alone.
There are others who feel your pain,
know your fears, cry your tears.
You are a brave young soul,
with a heart of gold.
With family that loves you so very much.
Friends that care, even though you do not know us all.
Your courage is greater then the fiercest lion,
your strength is stronger then the biggest bear.
Hold that lovely head up high, and don’t fret my
dear Molly, for I send my prayers on Angels wings.
As a friend in a far distant place, a friend that holds you dear and always in my prayers.
10/25/06
Dear Molly:
I've been checking in to see if there's an update on the blog -- you must surely be working hard with your therapy, swimming, etc. You continue to be in my thoughts & prayers every day.
Keep up the good work!
Lori in Dayton, Ohio
Hey! Long time since we have heard from ya's! Just checking in and letting you know you are forever in my thoughts and prayers! Love and best wishes to you and yours!, Allegheny Mt's Mom.
Hope all is well with the Bloom's. Been thinking of you and hoping for the best! Hugs to you all!
Hey Molly; Well as of Oct 16th I became a double amputee. Now Im only 4'10"...lol. Keep your sense of humor Molly cuz it comes in handy. And thank god for friends that help ya get around.Well take care Molly and just keep moving forward....charlie
Happy Halloween Molly. Hope things are going well for you.
Post a Comment
<< Home